Become your Own Muse
We live in a world where we always seem to be idolizing something or someone. Whether it’s shooting look like one of Jenner sisters, or modeling our success after that Instagram coach who is ALWAYS selling out her courses, has a waitlist longer than your arm and a follower count that makes yours seem like pocket change – why don’t we ever look to ourselves? Why don’t we turn to the mirror to find motivation and to gawk at some badass inspiration? I mean really! How many years young are you? What have you done? What have you accomplished, overcame, and pushed through? I guarantee you that there is a plethora of magic inside of you that you are searching for in so many of the wrong places, Babe.
I don’t blame you. It’s literally the normal thing to do. We are told as children to find the best role model you can. This was always tough for me as child. I never could really come up with an answer, but at the same time, I never thought about looking to myself either. But I am writing this to you now because I have really inspired myself lately. Cara Alwill Leyba talks in her book “Like She Owns The Place” about being your own muse and she REALLY hit home on that one. A lot of the things you should be proud of are often called “failures” in your mind, I bet.
Ya know, in 2017 I started an online boutique. I sold mugs, hats, shirts and sweaters all with motivating designs I made myself. I put in SO many hours building the website, designing products, taking photos. It never blew up like I envisioned it would, but ya know what? I never once considered it a failure. I never thought much of it really besides. “Oh well, I tried!” But NOW…Hell, now it’s a big accomplishment in my eyes! It was such an incredible learning experience for me. To this day, one of my favorite sweaters and coffee mugs are my own! I do plan to reopen with a lot of the same designs eventually, as merch for my brand and blog. But Never once did I think of that as a failure. There are tons of other scenarios I could give you, but I will spare you the boredom because I am fairly certain you get the point by now.
I’m grateful to have never looked down upon the things I have done both in business and my personal life because I view everything as a lesson and firmly believe that it all happened for some divine reasoning. But I know for fact that a lot of you beat yourselves up because things didn’t work the way you expected it to. But what you need to realize is that you are SO blessed to have gone through that when you did! The sooner the better! It’s like weeding through the garden.
I invite you to think about all the things you have overcome in your lifetime. Whether it was a business idea or venture that didn’t go as planned, a break up, a difficult financial time in your life, the list goes on! Write those things down on paper. Read them aloud, and proudly! Take a deep breath in and when you breathe it out, think to yourself… “Damn, I can make it through anything.”
Know how inspiring you are. Be aware of how far you come and know that there is no telling how far you are capable of going. Because you’re a damn motivator! You’re a muse! You’re an inspiration! Not just to the world around you – but to yourself.